Episode 41 - Dr. Marcy Willard Interview: Recovery vs Rehab, Training & Boot Camp, Genetics, Addiction can impact ANY Family, and Go Gently

I continue my Journey with YOU by offering this wonderful interview. Dr. Marcy Willard is Founder & CEO of Cadey. Dr. Willard is a tech entrepreneur, licensed psychologist, nationally certified school psychologist, and published author. Dr. Willard, or Marcy, is one of my fellow Moms who has offered me insight and gentle guidance. Lots of show notes, so short introduction. Enjoy!

1:00 - How Marcy entered this Journey
2:05 - Addiction is not biased
3:05 - Understanding the intense pain when you're a "Good Parent"
4:30 - The Myth of Rehab being a 'Short term fix',  how Rehab is NOT Recovery and Marcy's Article on 'Drug Addition and Teens'
5:15 - Honestly, Recovery does not have an end...and that is okay
5:40 - Genetics, and how it is not just from the Parents
7:10 - Family Patterns and Marcy's article on 'Common Family Problems'
8:25 - Self Medication at the Adolescent level
8:55 - The Treatment Center viewed as the Training Camp / Boot Camp
10:00 - Surrendering to being "Okay" 
10:50 - Building Community to support Post Treatment Center Recovery
11:15 - The Key to Recovery "was within me"
11:30 - Michael Singer, 'Everything will be okay when you're okay with everything', Living from a Place of Surrender
 12:30 - The strength and power in choosing how to react, Victor Frankel's Man's Search for Meaning and Edith Eger's The Choice
13:30 - Choosing not to attend the party we are invited to
14:30 - Expectations: STOP bringing your Expectation Guy! 
15:30 - Measuring the Gain, not the Gap and referencing Dr. Ben Hardy's book The Gap and the Gain
16:45 - Honoring the Addict
17:30 - Marcy's article, Addict has Entered the Room
19:00 - Seeing the Addict in front of you and how that can be a part of your own Recovery Journey
20:00 - Debra Jay on the Master Manipulator, don't underestimate the power of addiction as it is the undoing of many Families, Debra Jay's website, lovefirst.net
22:00 - Engaging professionals as SOON as you can as that's when the Magic starts to happen as the addict shrinks and your Child starts to grow
23:45 - Five stages of Grieving
24:15 - Marcy connects losing a brother to addiction and how that impacted the Journey with her child
28:00 - Supporting your Child in developing their Self, including boundaries
29:00 - Don't personalize, your Child's Addiction is not about YOU
31:45 - Even in the toughest of circumstances, try to listen and SEE your child
32:45 - Marcy's Courses (click here)

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.

If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.

Walk gently, my friend.